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Topic: Chastity

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Before all, always consider the following verses:

Ecc 7:16 Be not righteous over much; neither make thyself over wise: why shouldest thou destroy thyself?

Ecclesiastes 7:17 Be not over much wicked, neither be thou foolish: why shouldest thou die before thy time?

One of the best ways to deal with anything that distracts us from a right walk with the Lord is to attack the problem through Scripture and get so involved with the fantastic insights while we study that we are at least given some moments away from the distractions. We cannot allow ourselves to step over the line into obsession with a problem so that our obsession with the problem becomes greater than the problem itself. I have witnessed some whose frequent desire to repent keeps their mind so obsessed with a problem that they're crippled to walk away from the problem.

So we'll seek an answer to your situation while distracting you from your situation as a demonstration of what works for many others. I apologize in advance if any of what I'm saying here is too elementary but it's often the most simple explanations that make difficult problems easy to understand.

Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things [are] honest, whatsoever things [are] just, whatsoever things [are] pure, whatsoever things [are] lovely, whatsoever things [are] of good report; if [there be] any virtue, and if [there be] any praise, think on these things.
Philippians 4:8

When it comes to women, do the same. Dwell on those that are worthy of your attention. Seek those that fit the above description. In most cases this means traveling to other countries to find them since America is a nation of harlots. It is the rare exception where marrying a harlot is prudent. A harlot is any woman who has had more men than she has had husbands. Repentant harlots in the Bible are not proud like those who fill America's churches. In America harlots often bear a title, "Single Mother" as a badge of honor as if their harlotry makes them better! Somehow they think that by not murdering their baby they are worthy of praise! I go through every day of my life not murdering my children! Killing a child by abortion or otherwise is worthy of condemnation but not killing, in other words, normal behavior, is not something unusual that we should praise, ah, except in America. Yes, in America, normal behavior has become so rare that we must praise it!

So to begin with, it's important to get a pure woman under your authority. This nation claims to call that marriage.

The Bible has no such word in the Hebrew nor does the blessed man woman relationship described in the Bible have anything to do with what the West calls "marriage." So it's clear that where it is used in the Greek (New Testament) that the Greek word "gameo" which is then translated in our Bibles to the English word "marriage" is not an exact translation of the Hebrew or Aramaic words originally used by the speaker. I'll repeat because for many this is a shock, the Hebrew language simply did not have the word marriage! It uses a number of other words and phrases that are translated to the English word marriage to describe the acceptable relationship between a man and a woman, but never a single word that could possibly be translated "marriage, marrying, married, marries, etc." In fact, the English word marriage is used only two times in the entire Old Testament and cannot be accurately translated to the English word marriage, not by any means!

Here are some examples:

Psalms 78:63 The fire consumed their young men; and their maidens were not given to marriage.

The word translated "marriage" is actually "worthy of praise" as follows:

Psalms 78:63 The fire consumed their young men; and their maidens were not worthy of praise.

The word translated above as marriage but which should be translated as "worthy of praise" is in the pual tense.

Here is the Strong's Concordance translation for it.

c) (Pual)
1) to be praised, be made praiseworthy, be commended, be worthy of praise.

The other place the word marriage is used is:

Exodus 21:10 If he take him another [wife]; her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish.

Duty of marriage in today's terminology would be the woman's right to sexual intercourse. If we look at Strong's Concordance again, we see the word is cohabitation, or conjugal rights. Conjugal at the time the Bible was translated still meant what it did when it was first used in the 1500s. (con - with) (jugal - yoked.) In other words, man-woman yoked rights. No word "marriage" at all!

Let me clarify. IF by marriage you mean a God blessed joining of a man to a woman wherein he has the authority of a father over her, then yes, marriage is found in the Bible. However, if you mean the relationship between a man and a woman where the woman is not under the authority of her husband but is given free reign to make her own decisions, that is NOT marriage. That is contractual harlotry; the type of legal man-woman relationship most common in today's churches.

Knowledge of these things should be second nature for Christians but the original words have escaped their knowledge due to the repeated mistranslation of a handful of words.

If that weren't enough, the word wife occurs neither in the Hebrew nor the Greek. The English word wife has become a title that confers ungodly and harlot like rights to women who claim to be in a godly relationship but who in fact behave more like prostitutes that are paid to stick around than a godly helpmeet assigned to a man, her master, by God Himself.

The authority relationship described in the Bible can better be represented in a new English word, andromony, which I define as man support or husband support in accordance with what the Bible teaches on godly unions. The ungodly word matrimony breaks down to mother support and that does not represent any biblical concept of a blessed union. In fact, that is the Bible's man woman relationship turned on its head. The woman was created to be a help to the man. If she's the help, she's the support, therefore andromony. Consider also the God ordained power of a man over his woman.

Ephesians 5:24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in every thing.

We are certainly servants to Christ as members of the ecclesia, "church". In this world, our woman or women are to be servants to us as you will read in what follows.

1Peter 3:1-2 Likewise, ye wives, [be] in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation [coupled] with fear. (chaste conversation of the woman who fears her man, yes, fear)

Eph 6:5-7 Servants, be obedient to them that are [your] masters according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, in singleness of your heart, as unto Christ; Not with eyeservice, as menpleasers; but as the servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart; With good will doing service, as to the Lord, and not to men.

We are likewise clearly the master of our women.

1Peter 3:6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him master: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.

To help further with this concept of a blessed relationship and in hopes this will also help you to have a godly understanding of the type of woman who belongs in your life, the type of woman you can dwell on, let's look at the following verses.

Numbers 30:3-9 If a woman also vow a vow unto the LORD, and bind herself by a bond, [being] in her father's house in her youth; And her father hear her vow, and her bond wherewith she hath bound her soul, and her father shall hold his peace at her: then all her vows shall stand, and every bond wherewith she hath bound her soul shall stand. But if her father disallow her in the day that he heareth; not any of her vows, or of her bonds wherewith she hath bound her soul, shall stand: and the LORD shall forgive her, because her father disallowed her. And if she had at all an husband, when she vowed, or uttered ought out of her lips, wherewith she bound her soul; And her husband heard [it,] and held his peace at her in the day that he heard [it]: then her vows shall stand, and her bonds wherewith she bound her soul shall stand. But if her husband disallowed her on the day that he heard [it]; then he shall make her vow which she vowed, and that which she uttered with her lips, wherewith she bound her soul, of none effect: and the LORD shall forgive her. But every vow of a widow, and of her that is divorced, wherewith they have bound their souls, shall stand against her.

We see that ONLY A WIDOW OR DIVORCED WOMAN HAS NO AUTHORITY PLACED OVER HER. We also see from all that I've quoted that all women except for widows and divorced women have the authority of a father or husband that is every bit as binding and supreme as a master.

A woman who has been given to us as the Bible describes shall be to us as:

Our eldest and most trusted daughter except that we also have a sexual relationship with her since she is not our daughter but our woman. This provides us with those thoughts and feelings such as Adam described, bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh and when properly channeled provides much energy for good or for evil. This is why the Bible must always guide our steps.

The closer a man can retain his relationship as above noted, the happier his bride will be and the happier he will be. Women seek a man they can admire. Women admire men who retain that position of power that God has given them over women.

Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things [are] honest, whatsoever things [are] just, whatsoever things [are] pure, whatsoever things [are] lovely, whatsoever things [are] of good report; if [there be] any virtue, and if [there be] any praise, think on these things.

Philippians 4:8

In short, man has a natural desire to follow God's command to multiply. Let us not be diverted. Let us hasten our search for a God fearing woman, who we can rightly place under our authority, and procreate.

Note: Copyright 2012 - Pastor Don - ChristianMarriage.com

Posted by: Pastor_Don on May 20, 2012 - 08:24 PM  

andro (man) mony (support)


1. a man's act of acquiring a woman as a "help meet" in accordance with Genesis 2:18 & 1 Corinthians 11:9
2. a relationship that began and continues in accordance with Genesis 2:18 & 1 Corinthians 11:9

Genesis 2:18 And the LORD God said, [It is] not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

1Corinthians 11:9 Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.

Matrimony* is the exact opposite of what is described in Genesis 2:18 for in matrimony it is the man who is expected to meet the needs of the woman. In many nations, matrimony begins with the man bowing, on bended knee, before the woman, as his first act of submission to her, bearing a gift as a subject might do before a ruler. Although all men who enter andromony help their women in certain ways, the basis for andromony is described by God's own Words, to provide a suitable helper (help meet) who will support the man in his endeavors by serving him.

*matri (mother) mony (support)

More to be added to this article shortly.

Posted by: Pastor_Don on Sep 29, 2011 - 05:53 AM  


Many laymen and ministers misquote Jesus by repeating the liberal line, "He that is without sin, let him cast the first stone." I say 'liberal line' because this quote is not from the Bible and is certainly not what Jesus said. Jesus said, "He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her."

Jesus was speaking to the case before him and to a specific group; the Scribes and Pharisees. The Scribes and Pharisees had brought a woman who they claimed was caught in adultery before Him. Then they did their own misquoting of scripture saying,

"Now Moses in the law commanded us, that such should be stoned: but what sayest thou?" John 8:5

It must be pointed out that their case had no merit because Moses in the law did not command what they said. Here is what Moses in the law actually commanded:

"And the man that committeth adultery with [another] man's wife, [even he] that committeth adultery with his neighbour's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death." Leviticus 20:10

Where was the man? The Scribes and Pharisees did not bring a man because they were tempting Jesus to improperly render justice so that they could accuse Him. "They said this, tempting him, that they might have to accuse him." John 8:6

The law required both the man and the woman to be stoned. Jesus did not change the penalty for adultery and it remains the same today; "The adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death." And what is an adulterer? "the man that committeth adultery with [another] man's wife, [even he] that committeth adultery with his neighbour's wife."

The astounding thing about these few verses is how they have been twisted by ministers, and in lock step by their followers, in order to justify their tolerance of fornication in their own congregations. Fornication is rampant in the churches of America and nobody is doing anything about it! Listen! In November 2006 the President of the National Association of Evangelicals was ousted for "sexual immorality" of the worst kind, homosexual activity. I was not surprised because I have long preached that the churches are dens of iniquity from the top down and from the bottom up and I'm not surprised that they'll continue in their ways of fornication, pretending that their sexual immorality is "not that bad."

Now I'll go through some of the ways that the verses we have been discussing have been twisted by the immoral in the church. They're quite nutty but if you're like most Christians who've been brought up to accept western fornication as "not that bad" you likely believe some of these yourself.

Nutty twisting one:
Some Christians actually believe that this is a story of repentance yet there is not one place in this story where the woman repents!

Nutty twisting two:
Some Christians go so far as to change the meaning of the words in the story in order to claim that Jesus actually forgave the woman. Now remember, the woman never asked for forgiveness, healing, or anything at all. The Christians who claim Jesus forgave her say that He did so when when He said, "Neither do I condemn you." The actual word that is translated here as condemn means "to give judgment against." As I've explained earlier in this article. You cannot judge an adultery case without the man, the adulterer, present for there will be a stoning as soon as judgment is rendered and both the "adulterer and the adulteress" must be stoned. That is all Jesus was saying. Did he say I judge you innocent? No. Did he say you'll never be tried for this crime again? No, that would be illogical since she wasn't tried for adultery that day and that was only because the adulterer was not present.

Nutty twisting three:
Some Christians want to see Jesus as standing between the woman accused and her accusers as if they wanted to stone her. There was nothing further from their minds. They didn't want to stone her, they brought her before Jesus, "tempting him, that they might have to accuse him." Tempting him to what? Tempting him to stumble and say, "Ok, let's hear the case." They wanted Jesus to do that so that they could boast that he had not upheld the law because the adulterer was not present and the law required that both the adulterer and the adulteress be stoned. If Jesus had said, "Ok, let's hear the case," they certainly would not have gone along with it. They would have shouted, "This man is not a prophet for he breaks the law. The law says that we must stone the adulterer and the adulteress. This man cannot be a prophet for he wishes to put on trial and stone the adulteress without the adulterer!"

Nutty twisting four:
Some Christians believe that Jesus did away with the death penalty for adultery. Jesus did no such thing. Jesus simply refused to hear a case that was not brought before him in accordance with the law.

The Evil Twisting - Anti-Semitic twisting:
Some preachers are so disgusting that they don't even know they're anti-Semitic when they preach. They have preached that when Jesus said, "he who is without sin among you," that He was accusing the Scribes and the Pharisees of having committed adultery with the woman! Those pastors who preach such anti-Semitic sermons should be thrown out of their ministries without delay. They are liars and they are Jew haters. The Bible says clearly that those who hate Jews will be cursed. They will bring curses upon their churches, the members of the churches that support their ministries, and if there are enough of such anti-Semitic preachers in a nation they will bring those curses down upon an entire nation. Concerning the promised descendants of Abraham, the nation of Israel, the Lord says:

And I will bless them that bless thee, and curse him that curseth thee: and in thee shall all families of the earth be blessed. Genesis 12:3

Any ministers reading this who have preached falsely concerning any of these verses that are clear to any non-biased reader must repent and teach in accordance with the Bible, nothing more and nothing less.

Note: Although the oldest and most reliable manuscripts do not include the story of the woman "caught" in adultery, the story is not inconsistent with what Jesus taught when understood in context.

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Posted by: Pastor_Don_Milton on May 13, 2006 - 07:45 PM  


   True Love Waits, but a Harlot Will Fornicate.
   It's amazing to see that so many Christians think that waiting to have sexual relations until after marriage is a choice. It is not. Christians are not supposed to fornicate.
   A never married single woman who is not a virgin and was not the victim of rape is a harlot. Various women in the Bible turned from their harlotry and turned to God, just like some of you who are reading this.
   When a Christian who is a virgin decides to have sexual relations outside of marriage she has decided to turn away from God and to make the man who she fornicates with into a little god. Let me repeat this for those of you who just don't listen very well. A Christian man or a Christian woman who has sexual relations outside of marriage has decided to turn from the faith. You have read this and you have been warned. Do not turn from the faith. Turning from the faith can happen in small steps. The first step is to consider doing something that is forbidden such as having sexual relations outside of marriage or just wishing that you could. There is one answer for this: in order to avoid "fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband." 1 Corinthians 7:2
   It's interesting to note that the above words translated as "her own" and "his own" are quite different. The word translated here as "her own" is the Greek word "idios" which means one of a kind while the word translated here as "his own" is the Greek word "heautou" and is used in sentences where the Bible speaks of someone possessing one or more of something. Notice in the verse that follows how "himself" - Greek "heautou" refers to seven spirits. So when heautou is used in this sentence it means there can be more than one possessed.
   Matthew 12:45 Then goeth he, and taketh with himself (Greek - heautou) seven other spirits more wicked than himself, and they enter in and dwell there: and the last [state] of that man is worse than the first. Even so shall it be also unto this wicked generation.
   The first instance above of the word "himself" is heautou and means possessed by someone but not as one of a kind. As you see he possessed seven.
   1 Corinthians 7:2 is a clear example of where the the language of the Bible (in this case, Greek) acknowledges that a man can have more than one wife. Had Paul wanted to push monogamy he would have used the word "idios" and not "heautou".
   This understanding of the difference in limitations upon women and men is important because single Christian women around the world are being denied husbands because of the false teaching that a man can have only one wife.
   Married men who refuse to marry a virgin who the Lord has provided them may end up guilty of causing such a woman to commit fornication. Just like the man who divorces his wife without cause, causes her to commit adultery, a man who refuses to marry a virgin who the Lord has provided for him may cause her to commit harlotry or some other kind of fornication. Jesus expected that a divorced woman would not be content to go without sex thus the improperly divorced woman (i.e. still married) would have sex and the man who (improperly) divorced her guilty of causing her to seek sex from someone other than him. In the same way, a woman who has had a husband chosen for her by the Lord but who has been deprived of that God given husband, because of the man made custom of monogamy, will end up doing one of the following:
1. Have sex outside of marriage. (harlotry) - About one third of single Christian women will fall into this sin
2. Marry an unbeliever. (fornication) - About one third of single Christian women will fall into this sin
3. Marry a single Christian man. - About one third of Christian women will have this opportunity.
These statistics are fairly accurate for non-Western countries and since the overwhelming number of Christians in the world no longer reside in the West I have chosen to use these numbers. However, in Western countries, a Christian virgin is very difficult to find and if she is willing to live her life properly she will have no problem whatsoever in finding a husband.
   Now since the non-Western countries have far more Christian women than Christian men, there is little chance that their Christian women will find an unmarried Christian man to marry therefore we can cross out option 3 for two thirds of their women and you can understand how the statement that I made is valid: Married men who refuse to marry a virgin who the Lord has provided them may end up guilty of causing such a woman to commit fornication.
   In fact, I've shown that in two out of three cases this will indeed be the outcome. The the hardness of hearts and the bowing down to the golden calf of monogamy by married Christian men is depriving two thirds of the women in the world of a godly husband. There is no gift of singleness. Women want marriage.
   Since I originally wrote this article much has changed. The number of Christians outside of the United States has increased dramatically and so has the imbalance between Christian women and Christian men in those countries. Since Christian women outside of the West tend to witness primarily to other women there are twice as many women being witnessed to as men and soon the imbalance will reach epic proportions. Within ten years we could see as many as five Christian women in non-Western countries for every Christian man. What you may be doubting today as some incredible tale will be reality. Furthermore, the Christian women will take matters into their own hands and start marrying the already married Christian men.
   "And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our own bread, and wear our own apparel: only let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach." Isaiah 4:1

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Posted by: Pastor_Don_Milton on May 06, 2006 - 08:22 PM  

Single men have very strong urges. Being Born Again does not change this. If those urges are not met they will usually lead to sin. The Bible does not say, "in order to avoid fornication*" take a cold shower. The Bible says, "it is better to marry than to burn*." Let's face it, a cold shower doesn't work! That's craziness. When a man has tremendous desires that he cannot control (he's burning) and he'd better get married.

Which is better; to marry young and have a hard time supporting your family, or to not marry and lose control some evening and end up with a child by a harlot? God tells us that He will provide. It's time for single men to trust God and marry within the church and to do so at an early age in order to avoid fornication.

Note: *But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. 1 Corinthians 7:9

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Posted by: Pastor_Don_Milton on Aug 05, 2005 - 08:57 PM  


Speaking of the end times, the Bible says:

In that day shall the branch of the LORD be beautiful and glorious, and the fruit of the earth [shall be] excellent and comely for them that are escaped of Israel.
Isaiah 4:2

Now what event happens before Isaiah 4:2? Well of course, Isaiah 4:1 and it is written as follows:

And in that day seven women shall take hold of o­ne man, saying, We will eat our own bread, and wear our own apparel: o­nly let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach.

Now keep in mind that this does NOT refer to the seven churches of Asia for notice, it says, "We will eat our own bread, and wear our own apparel: o­nly let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach."

The churches will not be wearing their own apparel. They will be wearing the robes of righteousness provided to them by the Lord. For the churches to claim they would wear their own robes would be tantamount to saying they did not need nor want the robes of righteousness provided by the Lord.

I will greatly rejoice in the LORD, my soul shall be joyful in my God; for he hath clothed me with the garments of salvation, he hath covered me with the robe of righteousness, as a bridegroom decketh [himself] with ornaments, and as a bride adorneth [herself] with her jewels.
Isaiah 61:10

So it's clear to see that the women spoken of in Isaiah 4:1 are real women in this world marrying real men in this world. Now in what generation have women ever had the economic ability to support themselves as spoken of in Isaiah 4:1? o­nly within the last century have women approached the kind of economic freedom that would allow them to make such an offer to a man, that they would be willing to support themselves, if o­nly he would marry them. Now just because the woman's offer is to support herself, don't think that this will be the case. The verse is simply showing the strength of the desire to have children that the seven women would have in that they would gladly support themselves. It's stating the tremendous yearning that they have to fullfill their destiny as mothers and wives.

To clarify that when Isaiah 4:1 talks about the o­ne man taking away the reproach of the seven women it is talking about the man giving her children, I've given some verses below.

And she conceived, and bare a son; and said, God hath taken away my reproach: Genesis 30:23

And after those days his wife Elisabeth conceived, and hid herself five months, saying, Thus hath the Lord dealt with me in the days wherein he looked o­n [me], to take away my reproach among men.
Luke 1:24&25

The day is coming soon when Christian men will not fear taking more than o­ne Christian wife for the Lord wants us to be fruitful and multiply. This is not possible if the single women in the church are not given husbands; are not given a man to take away their reproach. Since Isaiah 4:1 must be fullfilled before Isaiah 4:2 is fullfilled we must ask ourselves; will the Lord return o­nly after we are practicing marriage in accordance with the Bible? Remember, this is what Isaiah 4:2 says:

In that day shall the branch of the LORD be beautiful and glorious, and the fruit of the earth [shall be] excellent and comely for them that are escaped of Israel.

Posted by: Pastor_Don_Milton on Aug 05, 2005 - 08:39 PM  


It is often the case that those attacking men's reproductive rights (the right to have more than o­ne wife) fail to read their Bibles thoroughly. A correct rendering of Ecclesiastes 2:8 is found in the Darby translation which you can find below. A similar version can be found in the Revised Standard Version of the Bible.

I gathered me also silver and gold, and the peculiar treasure of kings and of the provinces; I got me men-singers and women-singers, and the delights of the children of men, a wife and concubines. Ecclesiastes 2:8

For those who would say that this verse does not endorse having more than o­ne wife I ask, why did the translators of the King James Bible and other bibles based on the King James decide to incorrectly translate the word to something other than the actual word which means "concubine?" What were they covering up?

The Hebrew word in question, "shiddah", is translated in the Strongs Hebrew Lexicon as concubine, wife, or harem but instead of using o­ne of those words in the King James Bible the translators used the word musical instruments. The fact is that there is not o­ne negative reference in the Bible to a man's having more than o­ne wife. The o­nly negative references in the Bible to a man's relationship with his wife concern the o­ne to o­ne relationship between a husband and his wife not any type of ganging up o­n him by his wives although such a situation could easily be made into a comedy.

If it is a delight to have more than o­ne wife then let's admit it. Men have rights too and o­ne of those rights is to have many wives.

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Posted by: Pastor_Don_Milton on Jul 05, 2005 - 12:47 AM  


As my readers know, I was appalled that the President of the United States allowed his wife to make a lewd speech at a recent dinner for the press. I sent an email to three major ministries in the United States and you'll find a copy of my email to Doctor James Dobson of Focus o­n the Family as well as the response provided by Amy Campbell, his representative. Their reaction was to be "uncomfortable with some of her remarks." That was not my reaction to her lewd remarks as you know from my article about Laura Bush's lewd remarks. When you read Focus o­n the Famly's response, please note that they o­nly referred to her remarks, not "lewd" remarks and they o­nly referred to their reaction and not to the effects of her remarks o­n the office of the presidency. We must ask ourselves, has Focus o­n the Family gone so mainstream that it can o­nly respond hypocritically to Laura Bush's comments while lambasting any media personality who offends public decency? I would like to see them lambast both, wouldn't you? Below you'll find my email and their response.

Below is my Email that I sent to Focus o­n the Family

"To whom it may concern:

Please send me the official statement of Dr. Dobson and/or Focus o­n the Family concerning First "Lady" Laura Bush's lewd jokes at the recent correspondents' dinner.

The President allowed her to make that speech. This incident is o­ne of the most significant in the history of the United States; a First "Lady" talking like a slut.

Sincerely, Pastor Don Milton"

Below is the Response that I received from Focus o­n the Family

"Greetings, Pastor Milton, from Focus o­n the Family.

We appreciate your taking a moment to share your candid reaction to First Lady Laura Bush's comments at the White House Correspondents Association dinner, held on April 30, 2005. Like you, we were uncomfortable with some of her remarks. Nevertheless, Dr. Dobson and Focus o­n the Family won't be addressing this matter in the manner you had hoped. Given our current emphasis on such front-burner issues as abortion, judicial tyranny, same-sex marriage, and religious freedom, we don't feel discussions concerning the propriety of the First Lady's speech should be allowed to distract us from investing our efforts in these critical areas.

Thanks again for writing. May God's richest blessings be upon you in the coming days!

Amy Campbell
Focus on the Family"

The above response was from Focus o­n the Family. ChristianMarriage.com condemns in the strongest possible terms Laura Bush's comments. You can find our article on her comments by clicking the link below:


Note: Pastor Don Milton is aware that powerful men in the United States would like to cause a problem for him because of his candid approach to morality.

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Posted by: Pastor_Don_Milton on May 17, 2005 - 07:31 PM  


   Why are Americans Silent about the moral decay in America? That's what Christians from around the world are asking me. I receive so many emails from Christians in foreign lands asking why the United States has immorality unchecked by its so called Christians. Have you ever participated in a discussion with your pastor concerning the immorality in the United States? Has your pastor even been able to discuss morality entirely based o­n the Bible?
   Our current crisis is not helped by the fact that our pastors want to tickle our ears. Are you willing to confront your pastor and tell him that you want chastity taught straight from the Bible instead of conformed to western society?
   It's very hard for me to believe that many Christians in the United States are confronting their pastors. Churches continue to teach that a husband is the "servant leader" of his family with a hidden meaning for "servant leader." The hidden meaning is that a husband is not supposed to defend himself from the o­nslaught of attacks from the feminist left.
   If you treat your husband the way the feminist left would like you to treat him then it means that your relationship with him has suffered and your relationship with the Lord is not likely any better than your relationship with your husband. Are you willing to let your relationship with the Lord suffer just to hold o­n to false feminist ideals? When you treat your husband in a demanding way and without thanks you will also treat the Lord in a demanding way and without thanks. Television continues to create weak men as characters o­n whom tons of abuse are heaped such as the character in "Everybody Loves Raymond."

Please pray about what I've written here. It is time for Christians to take the Bible seriously and to question their leaders and their culture.

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Posted by: Pastor_Don_Milton on May 12, 2005 - 08:27 AM  


The Bible does not forbid marrying your cousin so let's make sure in our zeal to help others that we don't confuse what our culture teaches with what the Bible teaches.

Isaiah 5:20 Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter!

Leviticus 18 lists the forbidden relationships and cousins are not forbidden nor is cousin marriage forbidden anywhere else in the Bible.

God may have chosen your cousin for you and if He chose him it would be a sin to walk away from this. There is no evidence that there is a significant increase in birth defects when cousins marry. The preferred marriage among the Israelites was cousin to cousin marriage and Jews to this day have an average I.Q. of over 120 with the highest population of Geniuses in the world. Ever hear of Einstein?

Both Albert Einstein and Charles Darwin married their first cousins. If such scientists as these had no fear of "defects" in their children then you should not. Their children were all healthy and bright. However, if you're really stupid and your cousin is really stupid then there is a much higher chance that your children will be really stupid. Is there room for a little humor here?

The fact is that cousin marriage was banned by the Roman Catholic church under 'Pope Gregory I' in an attempt to prevent the accumulation of wealth and power within families. The popes saw wealth among the common man as competition for their own power. This power structure exists in the Philippines to this day and is hampering economic development. The ban had nothing to do with our Bibles which we read regularly, don't we?

Civil disobedience has a long history within the Christian community. You've all heard of people power. When the people gathered by the thousands outside of Malacanang to oust Marcos that was against the law. Was it a sin? No. If you must go to another province or state to marry your cousin so that nobody will report you then that is what you must do. Will that be against the law? Maybe. Is it a sin? No. This is not unheard of in the Philippines, The United States, and many other countries where Born Again Christians live in sufficient numbers to make such laws of no effect. I know of such a couple in the Philippines and they live happily to this day. They're now in their 60s with 5 children and many grandchildren. They're born again of course because it is the pope who forbids cousin marriage, not the Bible.

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Posted by: Pastor_Don_Milton on Apr 01, 2005 - 12:56 AM  


If there is o­ne word in the Bible that modern day Christians can be said to discuss most but understand least, it is the word adultery as it pertains to marriage.

If I were a betting man, I'd bet that 99% of you cannot properly define the word adultery.

Here's a simple test:

If a married man has sexual intercourse with his single secretary, has he committed adultery?

If you answered yes then you don't know the definition of adultery.

The fact is that anyone who has sexual intercourse outside of marriage has indeed committed a sin (harlotry*) but if the woman involved is not a married woman then it is not called adultery.

It is impossible for a single woman to commit adultery.

Adultery refers to a specific kind of sexual sin; Sexual intercourse with another man's wife or a woman betrothed to another man.

That's it. Nothing else.

This is the definition provided by Strong's Exhaustive Concordance which is the concordance favored by theologians.

But even without the Strong's Concordance we can understand the definition of adultery by the dozens of verses referring to it in the Old Testament, the Bible that Jesus quoted.

The first reference to the word* adultery is found in the 7th commandment.

Thou shalt not commit adultery. Exodus 20:14

The second reference to adultery defines it and gives the penalty for it.

And the man that committeth adultery with [another] man's wife, [even he] that committeth adultery with his neighbour's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.Leviticus 20:10

The verse above is word for word and bracket for bracket what is written in the King James Bible.

Every reference to adultery in the entire Bible concerns sexual intercourse between a married or betrothed woman and a man other than the o­ne to whom she is married or betrothed.

Solomon clarifies that adultery is a crime against men in Proverbs 6:32-35

But] whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he [that] doeth it destroyeth his own soul. A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away. For jealousy [is] the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance. He will not regard any ransom; neither will he rest content, though thou givest many gifts.Proverbs 6:32-35

The Bible is gender specific when it comes to marriage. It does not use the word spouse except in the Song of Songs where in fact it is not gender neutral, it refers to the writer's bride and is translated in all other places in the Bible as daughter-in-law or bride.

The rights of women and the rights of men are very different in the Bible. Women have some rights that men don't have and men have some rights that women don't have.

We can now more easily understand Matthew 5:27&28, the verses that speak of "adultery in the heart," but there are two more words that we must define in order to fully understand it:

Lust: to desire something forbidden
Romans 7:7b - "for I had not known lust, except the law had said, Thou shalt not covet."

Woman: both the Hebrew word and the Greek word for woman can also be translated as wife.

Now that you know the meanings of the words let's go to the context.

Let's start with the first verses found in Matthew 5 that have a similar structure to the o­nes we're studying, namely, they begin with "Ye have heard" and are followed by "But I say unto you."

Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not kill; and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment: But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire. Matthew 5:21&22

Notice that Jesus is referring to the 9th & 6th commandments:

Exd 20:16 Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbour.

Exd 20:13 Thou shalt not kill.

Jesus shows here that there is a sequence of events that leads up to murder. First; unjustified anger, second; bearing false witness, and third; murder.

Jesus uses the same method to explain the steps that lead to adultery in Matthew 5:27&28

Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh o­n a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.Matthew 5:27&28

Notice that he's referring to the 10th & 7th commandments:

Exd 20:17 ...thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife...

Exd 20:14 Thou shalt not commit adultery.

Jesus shows here that there is a sequence of events that leads up to adultery. First; Looking upon another man's wife; second; lusting after her, third; committing adultery with her.

What is often not perceived by modern readers in our modern culture is that the admonition not to "looketh o­n a woman to lust after her" is an admonition not to break the 10th commandment; not to covet thy neighbor's wife because that will lead to adultery, the crime of having sexual intercourse with another man's wife.

In the two cases above, murder & adultery, Jesus explains the importance of not speaking ill of others and of not desiring forbidden things because doing so will lead to murder and adultery.

Jesus did not give a new command here to deny your sexuality. It is natural for men to desire women and for women to desire men otherwise nobody would ever get married. Properly directed sexual desire is God given, it is good. It shows that you're healthy.

Jesus words must be understood in the context of the meaning of each word as well as the context of each paragraph. A man or woman who has a strong sexual desire for the person they expect to marry or would like to marry is not sinning.

Here is Matthew 5:27&28 with the meanings of the words inserted for greater clarity:

Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery [with thy neighbor's wife] but I say unto you, That whosoever looketh o­n a [married] woman to [covet] her  hath committed adultery with [another man's wife] already in his heart.

Finally, I am saddened at the number of times that I have seen Kirk Cameron o­n his T.V. show, "Way of the Master" improperly training the Christian audience o­n how to witness to unbelievers. I wrote Kirk Cameron complaining about his sin and I was responded to by Judy Notchick who sent a copy of her response to S.G. Scott. The accusation has been made therefore, to the man, Kirk, and before two or three Witnesses, S.G. Scott & Judy Notchick. So now it's time to bring it before the Christian community.

Here is the sin that is repeated over and over again o­n Kirk Cameron's The Way of the Master Television show. With the T.V. cameras taping, Kirk or his sidekick Ray Comfort says to a woman:

"Jesus said, If you look with lust.You have already commited adultery in your heart."
"Have you ever looked with lust?"
The unsuspecting woman says, "Yes, of course."
The average person o­n the street will think that the Bible meaning of the word lust is the same as the common English usage of the word, so they say yes. Yet the Bible's usage means to desire something forbidden. If the single woman is desiring the man she is hoping to marry someday then certainly she hasn't sinned. But Kirk or Ray continue without explanation.
"Then you've committed adultery in your heart. Do you know what the penalty for adultery is?"
The unsuspecting woman says, "No."
The response is, "Death."

This is supposed to lead people to Christ? It's disgusting. It's a lie first of all. Sexual desire does not equal lust. Lust is to desire something forbidden, to covet. The sin Jesus spoke of in Matthew 5:27&28 is to look upon a married woman with lust in your heart as you have learned in this study since the definition of "lust" is to desire something forbidden and the definition of "adultery" is sexual intercourse with another man's wife. In fact, it is impossible for a single woman to commit adultery!

THE PROBLEM with calling normal, healthy desires adultery is that it is a LIE!

Secondly, those who are not Christians will believe that it is impossible to be alive without continually committing adultery in the heart when in fact it is quite easy. Many men do live without committing adultery in the heart. They don't look at other men's wives with lust. They have the entire world of available women to look at. They don't need to look at other men's wives. Furthermore, non-Christians will believe that when they become Christians they'll be expected to pretend that they have no desires because Kirk and Ray have labeled most normal sexual desires, (as opposed to the forbidden sexual desire for another man's wife) adultery! Is it any wonder that young men are not to be found in the churches?

Yes, nearly everyone has committed some kind of sexual sin in their heart but let's at least get our definitions right. If we're going to be godly witnesses then we must tell the truth. Becoming a Christian does not mean that we are to pretend that we do not thirst for water. Why should we teach that it means that we do not desire the "bone of my bones" as Adam so poetically stated and as the pages of the Song of Songs so wonderfully describe?

Some of you may not have paid any attention to what I have just explained and are asking, "Then why didn't Jesus just say wife?" For you, I must say please please, read and understand. We have already discussed how the "Greek" attributed to Jesus in this passage was NOT the English word wife but a "Greek" word that can be translated both as wife and as woman. This Greek word, "gune", was translated in 92 other places in the New Testament as wife or wives. Had Jesus specifically defined woman in this context (lust) he would had to have said, "whosoever looketh o­n another man's wife or a woman betrothed to another man to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart." That would have been redundant since He had already used the word "lust" which specifies a forbidden woman and adultery which specifies the type of forbidden woman; the wife of another man or a woman betrothed to another man. There is no Greek word used in the New Testament that always means wife and never means woman. Greek is not English. The o­ne word, gune, means either wife or woman but never means exclusively o­ne of those except as determined by the context.

Now your final test question:

If a married woman or a woman who is betrothed has sexual intercourse with with her administrative assistant, has she committed adultery?

If you said no then you still don't get it.

The definition of adultery is simple.

Sexual intercourse between a married or betrothed woman and any man other than her o­ne and o­nly.

That's it.

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Note: The word* adultery:Even though the first reference to the "word" adultery is found in Exodus 20:14God made reference to adultery as far back as Genesis 20:3
"But God came to Abimelech in a dream by night, and said to him, Behold, thou [art but] a dead man, for the woman which thou hast taken; for she [is] a man's wife." Genesis 20:3Notice again how adultery always involves another man's wife or the woman betrothed to him.

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