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Category: Chastity

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Before all, always consider the following verses:

Ecc 7:16 Be not righteous over much; neither make thyself over wise: why shouldest thou destroy thyself?

Ecclesiastes 7:17 Be not over much wicked, neither be thou foolish: why shouldest thou die before thy time?

One of the best ways to deal with anything that distracts us from a right walk with the Lord is to attack the problem through Scripture and get so involved with the fantastic insights while we study that we are at least given some moments away from the distractions. We cannot allow ourselves to step over the line into obsession with a problem so that our obsession with the problem becomes greater than the problem itself. I have witnessed some whose frequent desire to repent keeps their mind so obsessed with a problem that they're crippled to walk away from the problem.

So we'll seek an answer to your situation while distracting you from your situation as a demonstration of what works for many others. I apologize in advance if any of what I'm saying here is too elementary but it's often the most simple explanations that make difficult problems easy to understand.

Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things [are] honest, whatsoever things [are] just, whatsoever things [are] pure, whatsoever things [are] lovely, whatsoever things [are] of good report; if [there be] any virtue, and if [there be] any praise, think on these things.
Philippians 4:8

When it comes to women, do the same. Dwell on those that are worthy of your attention. Seek those that fit the above description. In most cases this means traveling to other countries to find them since America is a nation of harlots. It is the rare exception where marrying a harlot is prudent. A harlot is any woman who has had more men than she has had husbands. Repentant harlots in the Bible are not proud like those who fill America's churches. In America harlots often bear a title, "Single Mother" as a badge of honor as if their harlotry makes them better! Somehow they think that by not murdering their baby they are worthy of praise! I go through every day of my life not murdering my children! Killing a child by abortion or otherwise is worthy of condemnation but not killing, in other words, normal behavior, is not something unusual that we should praise, ah, except in America. Yes, in America, normal behavior has become so rare that we must praise it!

So to begin with, it's important to get a pure woman under your authority. This nation claims to call that marriage.

The Bible has no such word in the Hebrew nor does the blessed man woman relationship described in the Bible have anything to do with what the West calls "marriage." So it's clear that where it is used in the Greek (New Testament) that the Greek word "gameo" which is then translated in our Bibles to the English word "marriage" is not an exact translation of the Hebrew or Aramaic words originally used by the speaker. I'll repeat because for many this is a shock, the Hebrew language simply did not have the word marriage! It uses a number of other words and phrases that are translated to the English word marriage to describe the acceptable relationship between a man and a woman, but never a single word that could possibly be translated "marriage, marrying, married, marries, etc." In fact, the English word marriage is used only two times in the entire Old Testament and cannot be accurately translated to the English word marriage, not by any means!

Here are some examples:

Psalms 78:63 The fire consumed their young men; and their maidens were not given to marriage.

The word translated "marriage" is actually "worthy of praise" as follows:

Psalms 78:63 The fire consumed their young men; and their maidens were not worthy of praise.

The word translated above as marriage but which should be translated as "worthy of praise" is in the pual tense.

Here is the Strong's Concordance translation for it.

c) (Pual)
1) to be praised, be made praiseworthy, be commended, be worthy of praise.

The other place the word marriage is used is:

Exodus 21:10 If he take him another [wife]; her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish.

Duty of marriage in today's terminology would be the woman's right to sexual intercourse. If we look at Strong's Concordance again, we see the word is cohabitation, or conjugal rights. Conjugal at the time the Bible was translated still meant what it did when it was first used in the 1500s. (con - with) (jugal - yoked.) In other words, man-woman yoked rights. No word "marriage" at all!

Let me clarify. IF by marriage you mean a God blessed joining of a man to a woman wherein he has the authority of a father over her, then yes, marriage is found in the Bible. However, if you mean the relationship between a man and a woman where the woman is not under the authority of her husband but is given free reign to make her own decisions, that is NOT marriage. That is contractual harlotry; the type of legal man-woman relationship most common in today's churches.

Knowledge of these things should be second nature for Christians but the original words have escaped their knowledge due to the repeated mistranslation of a handful of words.

If that weren't enough, the word wife occurs neither in the Hebrew nor the Greek. The English word wife has become a title that confers ungodly and harlot like rights to women who claim to be in a godly relationship but who in fact behave more like prostitutes that are paid to stick around than a godly helpmeet assigned to a man, her master, by God Himself.

The authority relationship described in the Bible can better be represented in a new English word, andromony, which I define as man support or husband support in accordance with what the Bible teaches on godly unions. The ungodly word matrimony breaks down to mother support and that does not represent any biblical concept of a blessed union. In fact, that is the Bible's man woman relationship turned on its head. The woman was created to be a help to the man. If she's the help, she's the support, therefore andromony. Consider also the God ordained power of a man over his woman.

Ephesians 5:24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in every thing.

We are certainly servants to Christ as members of the ecclesia, "church". In this world, our woman or women are to be servants to us as you will read in what follows.

1Peter 3:1-2 Likewise, ye wives, [be] in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation [coupled] with fear. (chaste conversation of the woman who fears her man, yes, fear)

Eph 6:5-7 Servants, be obedient to them that are [your] masters according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, in singleness of your heart, as unto Christ; Not with eyeservice, as menpleasers; but as the servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart; With good will doing service, as to the Lord, and not to men.

We are likewise clearly the master of our women.

1Peter 3:6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him master: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.

To help further with this concept of a blessed relationship and in hopes this will also help you to have a godly understanding of the type of woman who belongs in your life, the type of woman you can dwell on, let's look at the following verses.

Numbers 30:3-9 If a woman also vow a vow unto the LORD, and bind herself by a bond, [being] in her father's house in her youth; And her father hear her vow, and her bond wherewith she hath bound her soul, and her father shall hold his peace at her: then all her vows shall stand, and every bond wherewith she hath bound her soul shall stand. But if her father disallow her in the day that he heareth; not any of her vows, or of her bonds wherewith she hath bound her soul, shall stand: and the LORD shall forgive her, because her father disallowed her. And if she had at all an husband, when she vowed, or uttered ought out of her lips, wherewith she bound her soul; And her husband heard [it,] and held his peace at her in the day that he heard [it]: then her vows shall stand, and her bonds wherewith she bound her soul shall stand. But if her husband disallowed her on the day that he heard [it]; then he shall make her vow which she vowed, and that which she uttered with her lips, wherewith she bound her soul, of none effect: and the LORD shall forgive her. But every vow of a widow, and of her that is divorced, wherewith they have bound their souls, shall stand against her.

We see that ONLY A WIDOW OR DIVORCED WOMAN HAS NO AUTHORITY PLACED OVER HER. We also see from all that I've quoted that all women except for widows and divorced women have the authority of a father or husband that is every bit as binding and supreme as a master.

A woman who has been given to us as the Bible describes shall be to us as:

Our eldest and most trusted daughter except that we also have a sexual relationship with her since she is not our daughter but our woman. This provides us with those thoughts and feelings such as Adam described, bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh and when properly channeled provides much energy for good or for evil. This is why the Bible must always guide our steps.

The closer a man can retain his relationship as above noted, the happier his bride will be and the happier he will be. Women seek a man they can admire. Women admire men who retain that position of power that God has given them over women.

Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things [are] honest, whatsoever things [are] just, whatsoever things [are] pure, whatsoever things [are] lovely, whatsoever things [are] of good report; if [there be] any virtue, and if [there be] any praise, think on these things.

Philippians 4:8

In short, man has a natural desire to follow God's command to multiply. Let us not be diverted. Let us hasten our search for a God fearing woman, who we can rightly place under our authority, and procreate.

Note: Copyright 2012 - Pastor Don - ChristianMarriage.com

Posted by: Pastor_Don on May 20, 2012 - 08:24 PM  

andro (man) mony (support)


1. a man's act of acquiring a woman as a "help meet" in accordance with Genesis 2:18 & 1 Corinthians 11:9
2. a relationship that began and continues in accordance with Genesis 2:18 & 1 Corinthians 11:9

Genesis 2:18 And the LORD God said, [It is] not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

1Corinthians 11:9 Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.

Matrimony* is the exact opposite of what is described in Genesis 2:18 for in matrimony it is the man who is expected to meet the needs of the woman. In many nations, matrimony begins with the man bowing, on bended knee, before the woman, as his first act of submission to her, bearing a gift as a subject might do before a ruler. Although all men who enter andromony help their women in certain ways, the basis for andromony is described by God's own Words, to provide a suitable helper (help meet) who will support the man in his endeavors by serving him.

*matri (mother) mony (support)

More to be added to this article shortly.

Posted by: Pastor_Don on Sep 29, 2011 - 05:53 AM  

Letters to Pastor Don
Dear concerned Christian,

Thanks for your interest in the topic of my website and God bless your day.

Yes, it's true that God commanded Hosea to marry a "wife of whoredoms." My understanding of the verses concerning Hosea's marriage is that Hosea's act of charity was commanded as a way to provide a real life representation of God's forgiveness of His people.

I am aware that the monogamist "Christian" churches of the world are full of adulterous men. It is the obvious outcome of the monogamist's idolatrous worship of women. When a man realizes his "god" (woman) is not perfect, he searches for another idol. He did indeed bow in worship of her when he proposed and when he finally realizes that she does not provide what she as his "god" was hoped to provide, he turns and searches for other gods. That is what happens daily in the churches of America where monogamy is the cornerstone of the churches instead of the True Cornerstone, Christ.

As for a verse castigating men, there certainly are many such verses. Do a search of any online Bible for adulter* and you will find dozens of verses on that subject, most condemning men. There are two aspects to impurity; one is impurity in general and the other is specifically forbidden impurities such as adultery, incest, beastiality, etc., all of which carry their own penalties. If God's Word were carried out as all Christians should desire, the overwhelming number of death penalty convictions for sexual impurity would fall upon men for the homosexuals of the world would be wiped out not to mention the repeat drunkards responsible for much of the whoredom, etc. The Lord commands in Deuteronomy 21:20 "And they shall say unto the elders of his city, This our son [is] stubborn and rebellious, he will not obey our voice; [he is] a glutton, and a drunkard."

If the law of God which certainly brings peace and quiet in the community were followed by the judges today then we would have no homosexuals and no drunkards and certainly no adulterers but the churches are against following the Bible. Many Christians even forget that we once followed the Bible in the laws of our own country and some were never even taught the laws of the Bible.

If your church has men committing acts with whores*, bringing whoredom upon the land, then they must be punished. Tell your church leaders.

That said, I disagree with your assertion that men in the churches are committing acts of whoredom at a rate of 10 to 1. The fact is, every time that a woman divorces her husband she has committed an act of whoredom because a woman may not unwife herself from her husband. She has put herself under his authority as much as God puts a daughter under the authority of her father when she is born. She cannot undo that. 67 percent of all divorces in America are filed by women who refer to themselves as Christians. Only a third of divorces are filed by men. When entire churches and societies believe that the relationship between a man and his woman is breakable by the woman, that entire society is guilty of whoredom for only a harlot/whore may unloose herself from a man's authority to go with another man.

God bless your studies of God's Word, Pastor Don

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As always, we appreciate letters of correction. It is not easy to have so many articles without an occasional typo.
*whore - a woman who gives herself sexually to a man without putting herself permanently under his authority and that man is a fornicator. If she is not free to put herself under the authority of the man because she is married to another man (legally or not) then she is a whore AND an adulteress and the man who lays with her is an adulterer.

Posted by: Pastor_Don on Jul 22, 2011 - 02:44 PM  

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